自信的美麗We’re all victims of occasional bouts of self-doubt, even the most successful, charismatic, confident among us have their moments of insecurity. Self-confidence can be a very delicate and complex thing. A few are born with it; others learn it early on and the rest of us have to learn to build it on our own。我們每個人都有自我懷疑的時候，即使最成功最能力超群最自信的人有時也會迷茫。自信是一種微妙復雜的東西。有些人天生就很自信；還有一些人很早就 學會了自信，而我們，也要學會建立我們自己的自信心。
Our confidence plays an important role in ability to achieve success and happiness. It affects our mental thought patterns, the way we speak, the way we act, and the decisions we make in all areas of our lives – career, money, relationships, and even our health. Confident people take more action, perform better, and are more likely to attain their goals. In addition, confident people also know how to take more enjoyment from their accomplishments are happier in general。在通向成功和幸福的道路上，自信發揮著重要作用。它影響著我們的思維模式、說話方式、行為方式以及生活的各方面的決定——事業、金錢、人 際關系，甚至我們的健康。自信的人行動更為果敢，辦事效率更高，更有可能實現他們的目標。此外，自信的人也明白如何從自己的成就中得到更多的快樂，生活也 更加幸福。
Lucky for us, confidence can be built and strengthened until it becomes natural, just as any other habit. It simply takes a little time, some effort, and a bit of attention。幸運的是，我們也可以建立并逐步加強我們的自信，直到它變得就像其他習慣一樣。建立自信心只需要一點點時間，一點點努力以及一點點專 注。
1. Fail More Often. 更多的失敗。
The more challenges you take on, the more failures you’ll have, but learning that you can recover, get up and push forward builds confidence。挑戰越多，失敗就越多，但是你要知道，你很快就能從中走出來，并成為你建立自信心的助推器。
2. Track your accomplishments. 記錄你的成就。
Keep a list of successes, big and small. It’ll help you to see your abilities in a more positive (and realistic) light。記錄下你的每一次成功，無論大小。它會讓你用一種更積極(也更為現實)的眼光來看待自己的能力。
3. Don’t compare. 不要和別人比較。
Stop measuring yourself against others. What you see isn’t always real. Making comparisons is a damaging and an inaccurate measure of success anyway。不要再拿自己和別人比較了。你看到的并不總是真相。無論如何，與別人比較都是對成功的一種破壞性和錯誤性的衡量。
4. Dress for confidence. 人靠衣裝馬靠鞍。
How we dress affects both how we feel about ourselves and the way others perceive us. Expensive clothes aren’t necessary. Put emphasis on good fit, good condition, and appropriateness. Don’t be afraid of some color; black is professional, but color gets noticed。我們的穿著不僅影響著我們自己的心情，也會影響別人對我們的看法。這并不是說必須得穿昂貴的衣服。重點是衣服要搭配好，質地要精良，適合 我們的氣質。不要害怕某些顏色；黑色是會讓我們看起來更職業一些，但鮮艷的顏色會吸引更多的目光。
5. Work on your posture. 良好的姿態。
People with lower confidence often tend to have poor posture. Stand up, sit up, and keep your head up. It’s an instant confidence booster。不自信的人往往姿勢也不好。站有站相，坐有坐相，時刻保持昂首挺胸的姿態。這會讓你的自信心瞬間膨脹。
6. Learn. 學習。
The more knowledge you acquire, the more confident you will be. Knowledge is power, and the more powerful you feel, the higher your confidence will be。學的越多，人就越自信。知識就是力量，知識越豐富，人就越自信。
7. Fitness. 健身。
Better physical condition and appearance gives you more body confidence, and as a bonus, the extra endorphins give you an added energy boost。良好的身體狀況和外表會讓你更加自信，同時，健身所產生的內啡肽會帶給你更多的能量。
8. Start a conversation. 主動和別人攀談。
When you find yourself in a social situation, instead of gravitating
to those people you’re comfortable with, start a conversation with someone you don’t know very well. Eventually getting to know new people will become easier。社交場合中，不要總是和那些讓你感覺舒服的人在一起，要主動和一些不是很熟悉的人交往。這樣，你會更容易結識新的朋友。
9. Have miniature goals. 小目標和大成功。
Bite sized goals are easier and quicker to achieve and the momentum can give you a boost when attacking bigger goals。小目標實現起來更容易也更快，并能給你實現大目標的動力。
10. Raise your hand。毛遂自薦。
Volunteer to take on tasks or projects that are a stretch for you. You’ll learn you can do more than you thought you could and so will others。主動承擔那些能拓展你的能力的項目或工程。你會發現你比想象的更加能干，這是一條放之四海而皆準的真理。
11. Be around confident people。和自信的人在一起。
Cultivate relationships with “can-do” people; attitude is contagious. On the other hand, avoid “can’t do” people. It works both ways。多與自信的人交往；態度是具有感染力的。另一方面，也要盡量避開不自信的消極人士，兩種方式都會起作用。
12. Be your own friend. 做自己的朋友。
When you hear that voice in your head, abusing, attacking and belittling you, remind yourself that a friend wouldn’t talk to you in that manner。當你聽到內心有聲音在誹謗你、攻擊你、貶低你，告訴自己真正的朋友是不會這樣對你的。
13. Rely on your instincts. 相信自己的直覺。
When you trust your intuition, and listen to those gut feelings, you’ll become more confident in the knowledge that you do know what’s right for you。相信并跟隨你的直覺，你會更加自信，知道什么最適合自己。
14. Keep practicing. 不斷實踐。
Practice the skills you need to succeed. The more you practice, the more confident you become. This is true of every type of skill。在那些能幫助你實現成功的技能上多加練習。實踐的越多就越自信。這對于每一種技能來說都是如此。
Confidence helps you to be more secure in your abilities and more positive in your attitude. It also encourages you to be more assertive to take on more challenges, and to improve your skills. As an added benefit, you’ll attract like-minded people. The end result is a better outlook, more success, and a higher quality of life in all areas。一個人自信了，就會對自己的能力更加肯定，態度更加積極；也更有勁頭接受更多的挑戰，并提高自己的技能。此外，自信還會吸引志同道合的人。最 終你會擁有更好的未來，更多的成功，更高質量的生活。
